266. Why Do I Always Have to Be the Bigger Person? Resentment, Self-Abandonment, and Good Girl Conditioning | The Not Too Sensitive Podcast

In this episode, Alissa gets into what it’s like to be the one who holds it all together. Your always the listener and the bigger person for everyone else.

She names the anger, the resentment, and the physical toll of keeping yourself small, and offers a way out that starts with what you can actually take ownership of.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why being the one who always holds it together isn't good for you or your health
• What good girl conditioning is and how it teaches you to keep your needs small
• What you may be gaining from an unhealthy dynamic, including safety, approval, and avoiding conflict
• How accepting someone’s limitations gives you information for reimagining the relationship, not an excuse for how they treat you
• Why a boundary that gets ignored hasn’t failed, and what holding it again looks like
• How to stay rooted when the second guessing and pushback show up
• Why creating opportunities to be vulnerable is part of finally feeling heard

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