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The Not Too Sensitive Club
🩋 Welcome to your lucky girl era 🩋

🩋 Welcome to your lucky girl era 🩋

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This is where your sensitivity becomes your unfair advantage.

Where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition.


In the Not Too Sensitive Club, your sensitivity isn’t a setback—it’s the membership card that unlocks your ✹lucky girl✹ era.

Join the Club!

You’re a highly sensitive, wears-your-heart-on-your-sleeve type of girl.

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The best friend anyone could have – you’re thoughtful, caring, and always thinking of others (the first one to set up the meal train for your postpartum friend or send a “You’ve got this!” text to your bestie when she has a big presentation)


So, WHY are you always second-guessing yourself?

No response to your message in the group chat sends your overactive mind into a spiral.

“Did I say something wrong?!” & “Are they mad at me?”

Or you overthink that “awkward” thing you said to your mother-in-law for exactly 10 business days, asking your spouse,

“Do you promise it’s ok?” for the 75th time.
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Your sensitivity is meant to be the GIFT that you LEVERAGE,

but more often than not, it feels like the thing that’s working against you. —

 Your emotional attunement?

(aka your ability to sense how other people are feeling, when their energy seems off, & how to best support them).

My friend, that is a social SUPERPOWER that makes other people feel like “Wow, she gets me better than anyone else!” which causes you to attract opportunities with ease because people feel safe, seen, and understood around you.

Others naturally want to collaborate, support, and invest in you. (Helllooo lucky girl energy!)

But when self-doubt is getting in the way? Your emotional attunement to others quickly becomes hypervigilance where you’re overthinking & dissecting people’s every move.

Your creativity? An unbelievable GIFT.

But when insecurity’s at the wheel, your imagination spins out worst-case stories
 instead of dreaming up that dinner recipe your family raves about, or drafting the first page of the novel that won’t leave you alone.

When you flip that same gift toward possibility and self-belief—you step into your lucky girl era.

The era where your ideas create magic, your desires feel inevitable, and your dreams actually start taking shape.

Because lucky girl energy is your imagination working for you instead of against you.

I'm ready for my Lucky Girl Era đŸȘ„

Can we be real for a second?

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Highly sensitive people are ~20-30% of the population.

In other words
 your sensitive nature is an elite, unique gift.
 Why the heck haven’t you been OWNING that?!

It’s time to change that.

Welcome to the Not Too Sensitive Club, where you become the type of woman who sets the energy, not absorbs it. 💅

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And let me tell you, you will NOT be able to relate to this anymore:

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❌ Being hyper self-conscious and self-critical
 feeling like people are watching you under a microscope judging your every move, so YOU overanalyze every move you make
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 ❌ Always overthinking if you’re being “TOO sensitive” or “TOO emotional” and needing a million second opinions about if you’re handling a situation properly (Asking 4 friends, “Did I sound too mean in my text?! Should I have sent an extra smiley face? 😅”)


 ❌ Doing the MOST for others but feeling like you often receive scraps in return – You’re the thoughtful friend who’s always texting first, checking in on your friends, and giving advice
 but when it comes to you? It seems like no one ever cares as much as YOU do. And if you’re being honest, you often feel resentful and taken advantage of, like your kindness is taken for granted.

 ❌ Feeling unseen, unheard, and misunderstood in your relationships because the people in your lives can’t relate to how sensitive you are and you struggle to explain it to them

 ❌ A lack of deep connection in your relationships because you get triggered easily, leading to the same arguments, frustration, misunderstanding, & disconnection in your relationships

 ❌ It’s not unusual for you to have your day ruined because your friend seemed less friendly than normal and now you’re worried she’s secretly mad or doesn’t want to be friends anymore.

So ready for this
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Your new reality as the Lucky Girl:

💞 You don’t compromise on your softness or hide your big heart.

You wear your heart on your sleeve WITH STANDARDS (which means you have boundaries around your empathy. You care deeply for others without ever feeling walked all over or taken advantage of.) You respect yourself and you’re respected by others.

💰 Only certain people get access to you – to your presence and energy.

Because, like Tay Tay says:
"You should think of your energy as if it's expensive, as if it's like a luxury item. Not everyone can afford it."

You couldn’t imagine wasting your precious energy on overthinking or worrying about little things because you’re grounded, secure, and completely unavailable to entertain stories that don’t support your highest good.

đŸ‘©â€â€ïžâ€đŸ‘š Your emotional intelligence is your social currency.

Your high attunement is the reason you’re an amazing leader, mother, partner, coworker, and friend.

You’re a trailblazer; a cyclebreaker. You’re likely the one who’s always felt different in your family. And this? Is a GOOD thing. You were created differently and you were never meant to follow the crowd.

🌙 You’re deeply wise and spiritually connected.

You wouldn’t dream of outsourcing your power to other people by needing a million second opinions to make decisions because you have unwavering self-trust. You’re the type to tap into your intuition FIRST because you know it never leads you astray.

You embody calm, confidence, and certainty.
You don’t need anyone to validate you because you validate yourself. You don’t rely on reassurance from others which means you don’t overthink a weird vibe or get in your head if your social media post doesn’t get a lot of “likes” because you have the self-confidence to KNOW that you’re good, no matter what.

Sign me UP!

And the best part?

You carry yourself with ✹Lucky Girl Energy✹ – where your success is inevitable, opportunities & cool things seem to always effortlessly land in your lap, and no matter what
 you have unshakable, unwavering certainty that things are always, always, always working in your favor. đŸȘ„

Yes, pleaseee 🩋
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 uncomfortable) to have ownership or agency in a decision for me. I’m showing up for myself and trusting myself no matter what. I’m growing
 and as frightened or uncomfortable as I feel
 I’m proud to have made a decision for my well being and joy”
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Here’s how we get there. 👇

3 focused calls per month that layer healing, spirituality, and identity:

Call 1: Triggers Are Teachers
Your triggers are gold nuggets. They’re knocking at your door to help you heal old hurts so that you can step into your confidence & power.

On these calls, you’ll bring forward any triggers you’ve experienced lately (i.e. your boss’ rude comment or the disconnection you’re feeling w/your spouse), we’ll uncover the wound beneath it, and do the healing work to shift it from the root so that you truly FEEL unshakable, grounded, and “I’ve totally got this” no matter what comes your way.

Call 2: Spiritual Growth and Alignment
Facing challenges? Hitting roadblocks? Looping in unsupportive patterns?

On our spiritual growth calls, we’ll talk through the current themes you’re experiencing in your life and identify the specific opportunity for growth that you’re being called into.

This is how you shed self-doubt, strengthen self-trust, and lock in a rock-solid intuition so that you’re truly living in your lucky girl “everything is working out for me” era.

Because when you can see the opportunity in everything?
You take ownership of your experience and will see the possibility in absolutely everything. THAT is magnetic.

Call 3: Unshakable Identity
Embracing empowered discomfort, taking messy action, and living AS the most confident, self-assured version of you
 this is the vibe of our Identity calls.

On these calls, we’ll identify the gaps – where you’re currently living as the old version of you (self-doubt, overthinking, overgiving) and lock in on the ACTION steps you need to be taking to live AS the most unshakable version of you.

Because the most effective thing about my coaching style is that we’re action-focused.

You aren’t just ideating
 you’re moving as the woman you’re meant to be.

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Instant-Depth Onboarding + personalized one-time, one-way Telegram

We don’t waste time here.

You’ll start with a powerful onboarding form that maps your sensitivities, goals, and biggest breakthroughs waiting to happen.

You’ll discover your Sensitive Shadow and Sensitive Strength Archetypes which gives me a clear roadmap for your transformation.

Then I’ll drop straight into your Telegram with custom voice notes and personalized action steps, giving you the exact tools to create Lucky-Girl-level momentum from day one.

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đŸȘ© Private Telegram Broadcast

Think of this like your secret hotline to my brain—raw, unfiltered, and straight to the point.

I’ll be dropping voice notes + riffs that help you shift out of old patterns fast, lock into your unshakable Lucky Girl Era, and start using your sensitivity as your unfair advantage.

This is where you learn to be that girl—the one whose sensitivity magnetizes everything she wants with ease, and whose life just keeps serving up opportunities like it’s rigged in her favor.

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đŸȘ„ Access to my entire Offer Suite + any new courses/workshops I drop while you’re a part of Not Too Sensitive Club

I’m ALL about you taking action and getting hyperspecific support in the areas of your life that you most want to improve.

When you’re part of the Club, you have access to my courses specializing in topics like self-worth, external validation, self-abandonment, healthy relationships, boundaries, and more.

We don’t do surface-level around here – you’ll have ALL the resources you need to make the change you need to tap into your Lucky Girl era.

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Count me in!
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Hiii! I’m Alissa. 💞

Mom, Wife, Coach for highly sensitive people (HSPs), Author of NOT TOO SENSITIVE (coming late 2026!)

And when it comes to leveraging your sensitivity as the SUPERPOWER that riggs life to work in your favor
 there’s no one out there who teaches it like me. 

(Actually let’s be honest, no one is teaching this) 😘

Through my highly sensitive nature, I’ve learned how to command Lucky Girl energy to the point where it feels like my words are wands.

I'm ready for this

Ideal opportunities and situations LAND in my lap in the most effortless way.

  • Landing a DREAM book deal w/ Penguin Random House where the editor reached out to ME 

  • Meeting my husband so easily – first & only date I ever went on from a dating app, knew he was “the one” within seconds of meeting

  • Getting our absolute dream home after following my intuition to go on a walk one morning where I happened to run into a neighbor who told us about a home going up for sale & we were able to buy it before it went on the (VERY competitive) Orange County, CA housing market!

  • Growing this business in the most natural, FUN way to the point that I could quit my full-time job & stay home with my girls


Just to name a FEW. đŸȘ„

And it’s through my signature process inside of the Not Too Sensitive Club that you’ll learn this, too.

You’ll become the Lucky Girl where people are like HOW did this happen for you?
 And you’ll laugh because you know
 it always does.

Because your sensitivity holds so much innate wisdom – it’s literally the UNLOCK to the life you desire!

It’s time for you to STOP getting distracted by what other people think of you, feeling overwhelmed with empathy, and second-guessing yourself so you can TAP INTO this superpower for yourself.

My sensitivity is my superpower!
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Not Too Sensitive Club is for the girls who don’t want an average life.

It’s for the girls who REFUSE to settle, are so committed to being their best selves, and want to do it with the sweetest community alongside them.

This isn’t another space where people are complaining about how hard it is to be highly sensitive or blaming others for their issues, labeling EVERYONE a narcissist and wishing they just “care less”.

Not Too Sensitive Club is an uplifting, supportive, “OMG I’ve found my people!” space where you take meaningful action alongside empowered HSPs who expand and inspire you.

No more binging the podcasts that make you feel seen but leave you stuck in self-doubt.
No more saving all the inspiring posts that have you saying “that is so me!”
 but don’t actually help you trust yourself or quiet the overthinking.

Because in the Not Too Sensitive Club, we don’t just consume content, we embody it.

No more therapy spirals that keep you dissecting your childhood for years but still leave you asking your friends, “Are you mad at me?” four times a week.

Because you’re now coupling therapeutic support with action-based coaching and the sky’s the limit.

Because what I know about you?
You’re an action taker. You’re committed to your personal growth and evolution.

And you know nothing would feel better than to experience inner peace, radical self-trust, and unshakable knowing that everything is always working out in your favor
 forever & ever, amen.

Start your journey today! 🩋
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Welcome to the Not Too Sensitive Club.

I'm so ready for this!

THE LUCKY GIRL METHOD

Here, you know that your sensitivity is your secret sauce – the thing that makes you magnetic, respected, and deeply adored.

It’s time to start using your sensitivity as your unfair advantage through the Lucky Girl Method.

1. Build Unshakable Self-Worth

Everything starts here. When you feel worthy and whole within, you no longer chase external approval, overgive, or shapeshift to be liked.

You become grounded, unshakable, and embody “I have my own back” energy.

2. Manage & Neutralize Triggers

This is how you become unbotherable.

You stop spiraling on what other people are saying and doing, and start using every challenge as a classroom for emotional mastery.

3. Choose Empowered Discomfort

Growth requires empowered discomfort.

You’ll learn to lean into the moments that stretch you rather than the ones that drain you, building confidence, resilience, and “I can handle freaking ANYTHING” self-trust in the process.

4. Shift Your Identity

You’ll start acting as your high self-worth self now
 not “someday.”

This is where manifestation magic lies – it’s what makes you an undeniable match for everything you desire.

This is about releasing self-abandonment and courageously embodying the woman you’re becoming.

5. Leverage Sensitivity as Your Superpower

You’ll integrate the parts of you that once felt “too much” — your depth, your intuition, your emotional acuity — and use them as your most powerful advantage.

This is when that effortless “my words are wands” energy emerges for you because you’re so tapped into your natural HSP gifts.

COUNT ME IN!
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Screenshot testimonial, “A pleasure Alissa, ever since last summer I have been learning to honor my needs as an HSP and really dig into the work, it's been hard and brought up past wounds and triggers, but as you always say they are teachers and it has helped so much. I am slowly forcing myself outside of my comfort zone. With each fearful moment I gain a nugget of strength! Your podcasts and courses (sensitive and soulful self worth plus C + CR) have served as guidance, thank you!”
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Screenshot testimonial, “What were some of your proudest accomplishments (no matter how big or small!) since joining this program? Since joining this program, I finally asked for a raise. Whether I get it or not, I'm proud of myself for showing up for myself and making the request no matter how uncomfortable the conversation was. I am showing up for myself by doing more things to make me happy, like booking my trip to Iceland and going with travel group. This was a long time dream that I never fulfilled because everyone I knew did not want to travel to a cold country. Through this program, I learned how important it is to show up for myself and grant myself permission to enjoy and pursue experiences that light me up and bring me joy! And when uncomfortable situations occur, don't sacrifice myself to make other people comfortable. Allow them to have their own experience.”

In the Not Too Sensitive Club, we do things differently.

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Because personally? I believe sensitivity needs a rebrand and I absolutely refuse to normalize


đŸš« Fragility as the HSP identity — living life in a constant state of “Did I do something wrong?” and “What if they’re upset with me?”

đŸš« People-pleasing disguised as kindness — always saying yes, agreeing with everyone else, and never sharing your TRUE opinion so that people are happy with you.

đŸš« Outsourcing YOUR power to everyone else – blaming other people for how you feel, seeing yourself as an emotional sponge, and feeling like you can only feel good if other people do XYZ.

đŸš« Perfectionism that has you addicted to gold stars at work, skipping lunch, pushing through exhaustion, and making yourself sick in the process.

đŸš« Emotional bypassing — guilting yourself for feeling sad or angry, telling yourself you “shouldn’t” feel that way because “others have it worse.”

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I'm so here for this!

The Not Too Sensitive Rebrand

đŸȘžFragile? Definitely NOT.

You trust yourself, you have your own back, and you know that if someone were to be upset with you
 you’d handle it with confidence and grace.

❌People-pleasing? We don’t do that.

You respect yourself way too much to abandon yourself
. And you know you can handle the discomfort of other people’s disapproval.

🔌Outsourcing your power? Not a chance.

You know that you’re the powerful creator of your reality and if you feel triggered
 it’s a divine opportunity for growth & evolution.

No one else can make you feel a certain way.

🏆Perfectionism? Nope.

You take immaculate care of yourself and you wouldn’t dream of burning yourself out to impress others OR pushing your dreams to the backburner until you get things “perfect.”

You take messy action. You prioritize self-care. You have your own back
 period.

🙈Emotional bypassing? Not the vibe.

You honor your feelings and you know they hold wisdom.

You process them in a healthy way and you hold space for ALL of you.
Your softness is your strength.

This is the space where you STOP:

  • Needing a million second opinions about if you’re handling a situation properly (“Did I sound too mean in my text?! Should I have sent an extra smiley face? 😅”)

  • Overanalyzing your sister’s behavior, wondering if she’s upset and if you need to swoop in to “fix” things for her (again).

  • Saying yes to every single extra project at work because you loveeee when your boss tells you, “You’re the best!! What would we do without you?” while you give yourself stomach aches on the way to work because you’re so stressed and your relationship is suffering because you come home so drained every night.

  • Asking your spouse 475 times if “everything is okay” and “are you sure?” after he comes home in an off mood until he’s irritated, YOU’RE offended, and now you’re having the same fight for the third time this week.

  • Burning yourself out at work, working through lunch, pushing through no matter how tired or sick you are JUST to be seen as impressive and like you can “handle it all.”

It’s TIME to transform your self-doubt into certainty, second-guessing into self-trust, and overthinking into rock-solid intuition.

In the Not Too Sensitive Club, your sensitivity isn’t a setback—it’s the membership card that unlocks your ✹lucky girl✹ era.

Yessss, please!

Inside The Not Too Sensitive Club

You’ll receive everything you need to become your most unshakable self.

✹ Personalized kickoff experience

You’ll start with a deep-dive onboarding form and a private one-way Telegram message from me with custom voice notes, practices, and guidance so you can create momentum from day one.

🩋 Three monthly calls that lock in your Lucky Girl era

Triggers Are Teachers – Turn your emotional reactions into breakthroughs and become unbotherable.

Spiritual Growth & Alignment – Find the lesson in every challenge and anchor into your unshakable, “everything is working out for me” energy.

Unshakable Identity – Take bold, confident action as your highest-self version.

No more overthinking or self-abandoning. I’ll give you the exact action steps to go DO so you create the momentum and start to see yourself as THAT girl.

  đŸȘ© Private Telegram Broadcast

Real-time voice notes, riffs, and reminders straight from me to keep you grounded, inspired, and tapped into your Lucky Girl energy between calls.

 đŸȘ„ Full Access to My Entire Course Suite

You’ll have instant access to every program I’ve ever created (and anything new I release while you’re in the Club), including:

  • 🌾 Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth – Build unshakeable self-trust and inner safety.
  • 💘Confident & Content Relationships – Cultivate secure, thriving relationships.
  • 💃Breaking the Good Girl Cycle – Release perfectionism & people-pleasing.
  • đŸ§ŒExternal Validation Cleanse – Stop relying on other people for reassurance and validation.
  • 🔐The Vault – Tools, trainings, and resources to thrive as an HSP in a non-sensitive world (no longer sold publicly!).
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🩋đŸȘ©
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Screenshot testimonial, “How would you say it's been working with Alissa in this program? Working with Alissa I have made the most progress l've made ever. I am not saying therapy is a bad thing, I did a lot of therapy and made progress with that too, but with Alissa she understands so much about being an HSP that this course just resonates with me so differently. It has taught me that no matter what, I always have my own back and I am in control of how I feel. The meditations and journaling exercises have been so healing for me and have allowed me to dive deeper and understand myself so much more.”
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Here, you know your sensitivity is your secret sauce — the very thing that makes you magnetic, respected, and deeply adored.

In the Not Too Sensitive Club, you don’t just survive your sensitivity — you leverage it.

You become the woman whose presence feels like magic, whose self-trust is unshakable, and whose life unfolds like it’s rigged in her favor.

Join us!
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Welcome home, Lucky Girl.

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