261. "I Can Survive Being Disliked" (And So Can You): The Good Girl Conditioning Episode | The Not Too Sensitive Podcast

 In this episode, Alissa revisits the topic of good girl conditioning and why so many highly sensitive women build an entire identity around being the responsible one, the kind one, the person who never rocks the boat. She looks at what happens when agreeableness stops being a natural expression of your sensitivity and starts becoming a way of abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.

The traits themselves are often innate, but the problem is when they are expressed at the cost of self-abandonment. Alissa names the fear sitting underneath it all: the fear of shining too brightly and being disliked for it.

Through her own story of a work friendship that went cold the moment she got promoted, and the clients she has watched give themselves permission to take up space, she walks through what it looks like to expand your tolerance for discomfort and stop managing everyone else's reaction to you. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why being the responsible, easygoing one can quietly turn into abandoning your own needs
• How the fear of shining too brightly keeps so many highly sensitive women playing small
• What it means that other people benefit from you never setting a boundary or speaking up
• Why stepping out of the good girl identity almost always brings pushback, and how to be okay with that
• How to hold the guilt of someone being upset and still trust that you did the right thing
• Why giving people the dignity of their own reactions frees you from carrying everyone

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