228. When You Can’t Stop Worrying What People Think of You | The Not Too Sensitive Podcast

In this episode, Alissa gets real about one of the biggest struggles Highly Sensitive People face: the constant overthinking, analyzing, and self-editing that comes from worrying what others might be thinking.

She breaks down how this pattern can quietly run your life—influencing your choices, your boundaries, your energy, and even your self-worth— and why learning to unhook from other people’s perceptions is essential for emotional freedom.

Through personal stories and client experiences, Alissa explores why sensitive, empathetic people often end up shapeshifting, people-pleasing, and abandoning themselves in order to feel liked or safe, and what needs to change in order to stop that cycle for good.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The difference between healthy empathy and self-erasing empathy
• Why HSPs often feel responsible for how others react
• How obsessing over others’ perception slowly erodes your self-worth
• Why shapeshifting to be liked never creates real connection
• The two core skills that free HSPs from external validation traps
• What it looks like to feel safe being judged, misunderstood, or disliked

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