219. Why You Feel Like You're "In Trouble" When People Get Upset With You & 3 Tips to Shift OUT of This | The Not Too Sensitive Podcast

Today Alissa is diving into a pattern she sees often in highly sensitive women—and one she's personally navigated herself—the instant sinking feeling that you’re “in trouble” whenever someone disagrees with you, gets upset, or pushes back.

This episode explores the roots of this response—often tied to the fawn response, good girl conditioning, and past experiences with unpredictability or invalidation—and how it can leave you feeling frustrated, insecure, and walked over.

Whether you’re 20 or 70, it’s never too late to start reclaiming your confidence, self-worth, and ability to show up authentically without letting fear or past patterns dictate your actions.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why you default to blaming yourself or apologizing even when you’re not in the wrong.
• How good girl conditioning and past experiences shape your responses to conflict.
• Ways to begin building self-trust and honoring your own boundaries.
• How to expand your tolerance for discomfort so conflict doesn’t feel unsafe.
• How to hold empathy, kindness, and strong boundaries all at the same time.
• Steps to shift your identity from “people pleaser” to confident, empowered you.

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