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40 Tidbits of Wisdom to Shift Your Mindset: Part 1

inspiration Feb 28, 2019

When I was like 15, I created a photo album on Facebook that I called “C’est la Vie” where I posted all of my favorite inspirational quotes and photos. I’ve always been so in love with being inspired.

In college, my dorm room was covered in quotes, bright colors, and photos that made me feel alive. When I started my first corporate job, I bought a pack of markers to write my favorite quotes in cute colors on index cards. I taped them all over my desk. I just love how you can read something and get yourself into a different headspace. Words that shift my mindset have been my saving grace.

Over the years, I’ve collected inspiration through podcasts, books, in conversation with people, and just my own life experience. I have at least a couple hundred of these little tidbits of wisdom. Over time, in no particular order, I’ll share these in blog posts. Here are my first 40. Maybe these will spark something in you like they did for me!

  1. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
  2. When you can’t change a situation, accept it. Acceptance will open the door for what’s next.
  3. If you want to receive love, give love. Even when you don’t feel like it. It will come back to you tenfold. If you want love and don’t give it, you’ll be left empty and frustrated. Appreciate what you have when you have it.
  4. When put into an uncomfortable situation, try not to judge as much as you try to understand and be compassionate. Everyone is trying their best for how consciously aware they are.
  5. If you’re noticing faults in others, look in the mirror.
  6. If people are mad, let them be mad and don’t push them to change their mind.
  7. Act and speak with certainty, even if you’re uncertain.
  8. Trying something new, that you’re unsure about, and then accomplishing it is an extremely satisfying feeling. Even if it’s not perfect, trying is the first step.
  9. You’ll never be satisfied if you’re always thinking of the way things are “supposed” to be.
  10. Relax and know you’re doing your best. Don’t seek approval from others because you won’t always receive the answer you want.
  11. Take a deep breath and think of one task at a time— you’ll get it all done. It may not happen exactly how you plan, but it will get done. It will be okay.
  12. As you grow, you may grow separately and differently from the people you were once close with. Accept this and don’t blame yourself. Growth is natural.
  13. Knowledge is power. People can only do their best from their level of consciousness. Be patient and kind.
  14. “As I let go of the need to arrange my life, the universe brings abundant good to me.” – Deepak Chopra. Detach yourself from what you think the outcome will be.
  15. “Believing our thoughts is the root of suffering. Ask yourself, is it true?” – Byron Katie
  16. You get off your game when you play for others, rather than playing for yourself.
  17. If you want something to be brought into your life, you need to put it out into the world (i.e. peace, understanding, love, respect).
  18. If you do what you say you’re going to do, you build confidence in yourself.
  19. Give peace to the people in your life, especially when they’re being the most difficult. It will fare much better for you both if you bring peace instead of more stress.
  20. Don’t keep telling yourself you’ll be happy tomorrow when you get more sleep, or eat better, or have a better hair day. Find a reason to be happy now, today.
  21. Give yourself something to look forward to each day. Even if it’s a glass of wine or a new latte. Make every day special.
  22. Listen to others more. Talk about yourself less. You’ll have better relationships when you make others feel important.
  23. If you find yourself going down a path of negativity, flip your thoughts. Bring up memories of times you felt confident. Think of things you’re great at. You’ll start to feel recharged and good about yourself.
  24. Take things one step at a time instead of looking at the whole picture and panicking. Let go of the need for control.
  25. Be thankful for the loved ones in your life. Be patient with yourself when you don’t act the way you wish you did.
  26. Don’t talk about it, be about it. Be compassionate toward others instead of trying to tell them what they should do. Judge less.
  27. Worry blocks the mind and the universe from your growth. Being present in the moment takes care of future moments.
  28. A positive attitude and an open mind attracts everything.
  29. Whenever you feel agitated, flip the switch and let it go. Change the conversation in your mind. Be kind. Be happy. Fake it if you don’t feel it and it’ll come.
  30. Choose to see people as their vulnerable selves. Picture the child inside of them. It’ll help you be more loving toward them.
  31. Take a step back, be patient, let people talk about themselves and be genuinely happy for them. It’s more engaging for you, too.
  32. Expectations cause disappointment.
  33. Acting calm & collected on the outside will help create the feeling of calm inside of you.
  34. We are human and make mistakes. Even the best of us. Remember that people will still respect you if you make a mistake.
  35. Don’t compare yourself. Don’t put all of your worth in someone else’s opinion. You’re great regardless if other people are great.
  36. Trust in your ability to overcome obstacles. You’re stronger than you think.
  37. The dishes can wait. The cleaning can wait. Sometimes you need to slow down and just spend times with the ones you love – it’s important for your connection.
  38. Life is never a promise for any of us. Be grateful. Be careful. Honor your life on earth while you have it.
  39. Don’t “nag”. Don’t assume your way is the right way. Put your idea out there and then let it go. Don’t keep beating a dead horse. It’ll never give you the outcome you’re hoping for.
  40. Be confident in yourself and your beliefs. It won’t matter if you’re going a different way from the crowd because they’ll respect your conviction.

Until next time!

With love,

Alissa