When they love you, you’re happy. When they seem upset or off, you’re anxious and wondering what you need to fix. Here, you transcend this exhausting addiction and come home to your inner peace and self-worth.

The External Validation Cleanse is for the highly sensitive person who relies on external validation to feel comfortable, happy, and safe… but is tired of the emotional rollercoaster of always needing others to validate & reassure you.

It’s the type of program that takes you from “UGH, I feel so cringe that only four people liked my Instagram post - I need to take it down. I’m so embarrassed!” to being so present in your life and feeling totally neutral toward the external perception of you. The vibe is: “I posted it because I love it!” 💅

⭐️ The External Validation Cleanse eliminates your need to impress others to feel okay. Instead of doing the mental gymnastics of trying to dissect that comment your neighbor made to you (“Wait… does she not like me or am I totally overthinking it?”), you’re so comfortable and confident in who you are that you show up as yourself and never feel the need to jump through hoops or convince anyone to like you.

👀 Instead of anxiously relying on your boss’ praise to make you feel assured, then totally spiraling when he gives you constructive criticism (“What is wrong with me? I can’t believe I messed that up!”), you’ve uncoupled your identity from your success and achievements.

^^Meaning, you can make a mistake AND it doesn’t even touch how you feel about yourself. You go home in a good mood instead of taking your bad day out on your family. The vibe? I’m good with myself, no matter what. I’m not defined by my successes OR my failures. 🙅‍♀️

Needing nothing attracts everything. And when you no longer RELY on other people to validate and reassure you to feel okay, you become the type of person who’s magnetic – who draws others to you. People can’t help but want to be around you because you exude confidence and self-assuredness. “IDK what is about her, but she just has the best energy!” ✨

And YOU? You feel so at ease. You feel untouchable. Because no matter what happens outside of you – someone doesn’t like you, someone judges you, your post flops, you make a mistake – it doesn’t make a dent in how you feel about yourself. You’re good. No matter what.

Through the External Validation Cleanse, you’re saying GOODBYE to…

👋Comparing yourself to everyone and their mother. More people said “happy birthday!” to your friend than you? Yeah, I know you’re noticing those things and it’s EXHAUSTING. No more keeping score and wondering “why don’t people like me as much as her?” because you’re comfortable and confident in yourself.

🎢Riding the rollercoaster of other people’s perception of you. When they’re happy with you, you’re happy with you. When someone seems upset with you, or they’re more distant/cold, you’re jumping through hoops trying to win them over and like you again. Only to do the same dance the next day, and the day after that. NO thanks! 

🌪️Spiraling because of someone’s response (or lack thereof). You sent a message in the group chat and no one responded, but then responded to your friend’s message 20 minutes later. OOF. After the EVC, you literally are so UNBOTHERED by moments that used to live rent free in your mind and make you spiral into “ugh, I’m so cringe.” YOU ARE NOT.

😰Needing so much reassurance to feel okay. Because I know you’re constantly seeking validation from your partner and friends. You’re asking “are you sure everything is okay?” 32580 times when their vibe seems off, and it feels impossible to accept their answer because you’re SURE they MUST be mad at you. Your anxiety has been crippling and it’s time to change the way you relate to others. Your relationships (and your nervous system) will thank you.

All of the above? Are going to feel like such a DISTANT past version of you after the External Validation Cleanse. 🧼🪞

It’s time to step into your Unshakable Era and say hello to calm, grounded self-worth that isn’t rocked every time someone doesn’t text you back.

It’s time to ditch your reliance on external validation, stop monitoring everyone’s reactions to you, and become the type of person who’s so at peace with yourself that you show up authentically whether you’re talking to your stoic, intimidating coworker, or the sweet cashier at the grocery store.

You’ll become the type of person who knows on a deep, soul-level, that you’re MORE than enough. Your superpower will become gentle confidence. Magnetic, at ease, “who is she? I want to be friends with her!” vibes.

And yes, your sensitivity IS your superpower. Through the External Validation Cleanse, you’ll connect with your unique strengths and step into an identity rebirth that reconnects you to yourself in a deep, powerful way (because chances are, you’ve been shapeshifting yourself for so long that you’ve lost touch with who YOU actually are. It’s time to get reacquainted, my friend).

Now, let’s talk about the HOW. Because over the past six years, I’ve worked with hundreds of HSPs, and heard SO MANY times “I feel like you’re in my head!”

I get you, I’ve got you, and I’ve created a step-by-step process that will eliminate your reliance on external validation. ⤵️

🪞Phase 1: The Obsession With External Focus

In this phase, we’ll define the difference between validation and reassurance – and how to determine where in your life you LIKE validation and where you’re RELYING on it. We’ll connect this to your self-worth, WHY you’ve formed this reliance on validation, and you’ll understand how your sensitivity comes into play. On the other side of this phase, you’ll know your unique patterns and have the clarity to begin making inner shifts.

🎭Phase 2: The Masks You Wear

This phase is all about IDENTITY. And it’s crucial! Up until this point, you’ve been operating from an external identity that you formed at a young age. You learned who you needed to be; how you needed to perform, to get the response that you craved; the one that kept you feeling accepted, seen, and safe. On the other side of this phase, you’ll have the tools to dismantle your old identity and start stepping into your NEW identity of self-confidence, magnetism – the version of you who validates yourself.

⛓️‍💥Phase 3: Break FREE of The Identity Reinforcement Cycle

In this phase, I introduce my Identity Reinforcement Cycle methodology and you’ll learn a step-by-step process for recognizing when your external validation triggers will crop up, and learn practical ways to let go of the need for validation. We’ll look at the role self-abandonment, anxiety, and your deeper wounding is coming into play. Because we’re all about going DEEP and not creating surface level, bandaid fixes. On the other side of this phase, you’re equipped with the exact steps that’ll take you from spiraling over an unanswered text to “I’m good no matter what”.

🔮Phase 4: The Spiritual Cycle Interrupt

This phase is essential. Interrupting the cycle of needing validation is a spiritual experience. Learning who you are OUTSIDE of how others respond to you, being starved of validation and breaking the cycle is how you connect with your most authentic self and step into the Empowered Sensitive Archetype – the wise, confident, magnetic sage; the knower, seer, intuitive soul that lives within every HSP. Through spiritual exploration, you’ll learn how to embody the truth: needing nothing attracts everything – which is at the heart of manifestation and creating a life you desire. You’ll shed your need for validation, rid yourself of the mask you’ve been wearing, and redefine who you are. On the other side of this phase, you’ll embody a depth, an inner knowing, and unshakeable-ness that only comes from having faith in the divine process.

❤️‍🔥Phase 5: Freedom – Being OKAY With Being Misperceived

In this phase, you’ll learn how to validate yourself – how to have your own back and be someone who YOU can rely on. You’ll learn your unique values, how to remain in integrity, and act in a way that YOU are proud of; that’s in alignment with who you want to be. You’ll learn tools to support your nervous system through judgment, misunderstanding, and being misperceived. You’ll cultivate self-trust and redefine what it means to be someone that you’re proud of. On the other side of this phase, you have a new vibe about you. You are truly embodying needing NOTHING from others because you source your sense of value from within. You feel untouchable, safe, and you know without a doubt, that you always have your back. You set free the past self-abandoning versions of you and your nervous system feels safe.

🦋Phase 6: The Rebirth + Stepping Into Your Authentic Identity

In our final phase, we’ll partake in curated external validation cleanse challenges together that will stretch you to LIVE AS this new, unshakable version of you. You’ll practice releasing the need for validation, connecting to your intuition, and unapologetically being yourself no matter who you’re around. On the other side of this phase, you emerge as a new version of you. You feel fresh, confident, and more powerful than you ever had before.

It’s time to step into your Unshakable Era and say hello to calm, grounded self-worth that isn’t rocked every time someone doesn’t text you back.

Feeling excited?! SAME. And because I’ve worked with highly sensitive people for YEARS, I’ve mastered creating programs that work WITH your sensitivity. No overwhelm. No unnecessary info. I give you exactly what you need to get the transformation you’re here for.

Here’s what to expect inside of the External Validation Cleanse 🧼🪞

• Lifetime access to the self-paced course material which consists of the 6 phases (outlined above!) that will help you shed your self-abandoning identity and take you from “I NEED EVERYONE TO LIKE ME!” to “I’m good no matter what, because I love and accept myself.

• The self-paced material will consist of bite-sized audio trainings, video exercises, journaling prompts, and PDF transcripts of each lesson for those who prefer to (or need to) read the material

• Curated nervous system regulation practices for HSPs that’ll help you expand your window of tolerance so that you can navigate a variety of situations (like speaking up for yourself, setting boundaries, and being assertive amidst people who misunderstand you) without spiraling into anxiety

• My Identity Reinforcement Cycle methodology which is a 5-step process that you’ll be able to apply to any situation in your life where you normally seek external validation and you’ll be able shift yourself OUT of it and into a centered, confident state so that you can live as the version of you who’s steady + self-assured

Your Unshakable Era is at your fingertips… because inside of the External Validation Cleanse, you’re about to:

• Wave goodbye to the anxious spiral of needing other people’s approval… and never look back (YES, even you, recovering people-pleasers!). ✌️

• Walk into rooms with hair-swishing confidence – instead of, “Will they like me?” and shapeshifting yourself to get a desired outcome, you carry yourself with self-assuredness and aren’t afraid to be yourself. You have full-body conviction that the right people will love you for exactly who you are, and you have NO desire to ever convince anyone to like you. (If they don’t, their loss! Period). ❤️‍🔥

• Become a master at staying in your OWN energy rather than shapeshifting yourself to be liked. No more trying to “win people over” to feel comfortable, liked, and good enough. You OWN who you are and take pride in being yourself, no matter who you’re around. 🧘‍♀️

I know you’re feeling seen as you read through ALL of this, like, how does Alissa get MY experience?! And it’s because I’ve been there. I’ve walked through the fire over, and over again. I’ve learned how to transcend any reliance on external validation.

For as long as I can remember, other people’s perception of me dictated how I felt about myself. 🎭

I was the person who was highly attentive to her friends – if a friend seemed off or upset, I felt anxious and like I was solely responsible for fixing it. I made it my personal mission to solve other people’s feelings.

If someone wasn’t outwardly friendly and warm toward me, I worried I’d done something wrong to cause it. I would match their energy and do whatever I could to try to positively impact their mood so that they’d be happy, and I could feel safe.

I needed a lot of reassurance in my relationship. I was always looking to my husband to make sure I was loved and safe. I didn’t know how to validate myself, so I was often spiraling into anxiety and overthinking if he seemed “off” one day – assuming he was upset with me or that his feelings had changed. I relied heavily on reassurance and validation to feel safe. 🙏

My sense of well-being was dictated by the actions of other people around me. I needed them to react positively to me, at all times, to feel okay. If not, I was always searching for what I could do to receive that validation (aka safety).

Except living this way? Was exhausting. I was disconnected from myself, chronically on edge & anxious, and having issues in my relationship because I needed constant reassurance. I needed to do the inner work to transcend my addiction to and reliance on external validation.

Through this work, exactly what I teach you inside of the External Validation Cleanse, I learned how to becoming unwavering, steady, and confident in who I am so that I don’t worry about being misperceived. I don’t stress over little interactions. I don’t shapeshift myself to be liked.

I’m a highly sensitive, deep feeling, thoughtful, intuitive person and I hold myself with confidence and certainty, no matter who I’m around. I’m OKAY with people not liking or understanding me all of the time. I don’t change my personality or try to “win someone over” if they seem cold or unfriendly. 

Because I respect, love, and own who I am, I receive that same type of respect in return. Because what you’ll find is that when you know who you are; when you stand unwaveringly true to who you are; when you don’t live to please others or need constant validation & reassurance to feel okay – you become more attractive to everyone around you.

Again… needing nothing attracts everything. ✨

You’re still here, you’re still reading this. I know you want the same.

You’re tired of being whipped around by other people’s perception of you. You’re OVER letting your mood be dictated by everyone else – if they’re happy, you’re happy. IF they’re not, you’re not. 

You’re tired of walking on eggshells, obsessing over people liking you, and spiraling into self-doubt and overthinking when you feel like they don’t. 

You’re exhausted from overthinking the text messages, rewriting your response 5993 times and constantly analyzing your conversations with coworkers and friends. You’re TIRED. And let’s be honest? Your body is feeling it. You’re anxious, losing sleep, and like you’re living on an emotional rollercoaster.

You want to feel safe to be yourself. You want to KNOW that you’re enough without needing to constantly have other people reassure you of it. You want to feel comfortable in your skin, instead of like you’re always missing something or like you need to do MORE to be good enough.

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again. NEEDING NOTHING ATTRACTS EVERYTHING. 

And when you move through the deep, spiritual, soul-shifting process of shedding your reliance on external validation, you become someone who is magnetic; someone who is comfortable, steady, and confident. Someone that others can’t help but want to be around. The difference is? You’re good with yourself no matter what. You’re more creative, authentic, calm, and happy than ever before because you no longer NEED anything externally to give you that.

Validating YOURSELF is a gift that can never be stripped from you. And it will, I promise you, change every aspect of your life when you know how to do this.

Once again, here are the Nitty Gritty details of what you’ll get inside of the External Validation Cleanse 🧼🪞

• Lifetime access to the self-paced course material which consists of the 6 phases (outlined above!) that will help you shed your self-abandoning identity and take you from “I NEED EVERYONE TO LIKE ME!” to “I’m good no matter what, because I love and accept myself.

• The self-paced material will consist of bite-sized audio trainings, video exercises, journaling prompts, and PDF transcripts of each lesson for those who prefer to (or need to) read the material

• Curated nervous system regulation practices for HSPs that’ll help you expand your window of tolerance so that you can navigate a variety of situations (like speaking up for yourself, setting boundaries, and being assertive amidst people who misunderstand you) without spiraling into anxiety

• My Identity Reinforcement Cycle methodology which is a 5-step process that you’ll be able to apply to any situation in your life where you normally seek external validation and you’ll be able shift yourself OUT of it and into a centered, confident state so that you can live as the version of you who’s steady + self-assured

• Content will be drip-released beginning August 25th, 2025 🦋

Ready to step into your Unshakable Era? Let's DO THIS. 🧼