YourĀ result is TheĀ People-Pleasing "Good Girl"
The People-Pleasing "Good Girl":Ā You're the type of person who likes to be seen as helpful and supportive. As a people-pleaser, you go above and beyond to be agreeable, easygoing, and neverrrr rock the boat. It's hard for you to tell other people what you need because you're often concerned about being a burden, so you tend to mask your true feelings by being helpful and cheerful.
Relationship issues this creates: It may or may not surprise you, but people-pleasing can create a lack of trust and frustration in your relationships. The people in your life don't know how you actually feel and what you actually want because you're so focused on pleasing others that you donāt express your feelings. At times, you may feel bulldozed by others because you've unintentionally taught people that you're "fine with whatever" and "don't need anything".
Check out the mini-training below for more support with this. ā¤µļø
Reflection Questions š
- Reflect: Where did I learn that I had to be the āgood girlā or guy? Was this something I was praised for? Did I see this modeled by caregivers?
- Reflect: How would it feel if I had an opinion that others disagreed with? Or if I let someone I cared about down? What would this mean about ME as a person?
- Your opportunity for growth + authentic relationships:Ā Lies in your ability to be imperfect and let people down sometimes. You have to learn to tolerate the discomfort of someone being upset with you, misunderstanding you, or disagreeing with you.
Positives of this trait to strengthen š„
- Loyal and naturally relational
- Kind-hearted and thoughtful
- When you balance your kind, loyal, thoughtful nature WITH a fierce willingness to be uncomfortable and authentic, you areĀ the BEST kind of friend and partner.
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