Your result is The Dysregulated & Defensive One
The Dysregulated & Defensive One:Â You're passionate, emotional, and your feelings always feel... really big. It can be hard for you to regulate your emotions and you've likely heard from loved ones - âI feel like I have to walk on eggshells around youâ or âI donât like to tell you things because Iâm afraid of how youâll react.â You often feel out of control with your emotions, as if others are intentionally trying to trigger you. You may take things personally and get defensive quite quickly.
Relationship issues this creates: As the Dysregulated & Defensive One, you probably find yourself in tumultuous relationships where it seems like thereâs a constant fight or disagreement. Your loved ones donât feel like they can be open and honest with you because your reactions are always so extreme. This causes you to feel isolated, unseen, and unable to connect authentically with others.
Check out the mini-training below for more support with this. —ïž
Reflection Questions đ
- Reflect: How did I see conflict modeled by my caregivers? Did I feel safe to express my emotions?
- Reflect: Where am I allowing OTHER PEOPLE to be in control of my internal experience? How could I take more ownership of my reactions?
- Your opportunity for growth + healthy relationships:Â Lies in your ability to learn how to regulate your nervous system and process your emotions in a healthy way so that you can have productive conversations, forge safe connections, and feel more in control over your experience.
Positives of this trait to strengthen đ„
- Passionate
- Emotional depth
- When you know how to regulate your nervous system and process your emotions in a healthy way, youâll feel more seen, heard, and SAFE in your relationships because youâre able to communicate more clearly and have awareness around your triggers.
If you found this helpful, you're going to be obsessed with my relationships course for highly sensitive people...Â
