Your result is The Anxious Overthinker
The Anxious Overthinker: You're probably the type of person who overthinks the text messages you send to friends and will spend hours dissecting an email youâve received (Why did she use a period instead of an exclamation point?!). You may feel on edge and hypervigilant in your relationships, often waiting for the other shoe to drop and looking for evidence that your partner is upset with you or has suddenly decided they don't want to be with you anymore.
Relationship issues this creates: When you're an Anxious Overthinker, you usually need a lot of reassurance and validation in your relationship which can be exhausting for your friends/partner. (Are you sure you're not mad at me?!) You tend to source your well-being through external validation, so if it seems like others might be upset with you, you canât relax... which puts a ton of responsibility on the people in your life.
Check out the mini-training below for more support with this. —ïž
Reflection Questions đ
- Reflect: When was your first memory of feeling unsafe in a relationship? Why do you think you learned you had to be hypervigilant, anticipating everyoneâs next move?
- Reflect: In what ways am I trying to control peopleâs actions AROUND me in order for me to feel safe? How could I learn to cultivate that safety within?
- Your opportunity for growth + safe relationships:Â Lies in your ability to manage your anxiety in a healthy way and know how to create safety within so that you donât need to rely on constant external validation to know that everythingâs okay.
Positives of this trait to strengthen đ„
- Conscientious
- Highly attuned to othersÂ
- When you balance your natural sense of attunement with a deep sense of inner safety, youâre the most thoughtful, deeply connected type of partner who anyone would be SO blessed to have.
If you found this helpful, you're going to be obsessed with my relationships course for highly sensitive people...Â
